Whenever we meet someone new, we tend to easily judge them based on their appearance, their beliefs, and the way they speak. We often hear that first impressions are most important but to be quite honest, they shouldn’t be. We could identify things we dislike about a person based on their opinions and their looks. For example, when the person we are trying to get to know talks about their political beliefs. We could compare their views to ours and assume we may not get along based on their perspectives. It is a habit we see in today’s world and it can get in the way of building new friendships throughout our adulthood. While we cannot always change their minds on our perspectives, we can be respectful of how others see the world. I know, sometimes it can be frustrating to understand a person’s political side but it doesn’t mean we should treat them poorly based on what they believe in.
The same goes for religion. We can easily judge people who don’t share the same beliefs, making it difficult to know them as a person. For example, I had jobs in the past where I needed to work with people who disagree with my religion, which can be discouraging at times. Of course, making conversations with a person who doesn’t share the same beliefs can be challenging, especially if they are judging you back. Sometimes you just have to accept that you may have different ways of seeing the world than others, and that’s okay. If I feel obligated to judge someone on their beliefs, I try to just think about how awkward it will be to work with this person if I keep that grudge against them. If you can’t respect a person’s perspectives, then working with them will make the job much more complicated than it needs to be.
We can also dislike how people dress or look in general. When we see someone new walking into the room, we first see their outfit and appearance. Sometimes, we may disagree with the color choice of their clothes, the shape of their glasses, or even the shoes they wear. It can be very seamless to think how much they dislike a person based on what they wear on a particular day. You never know, what if they usually don’t dress the way they do and they just had a bad day. We aren’t always sure, and we certainly shouldn’t say anything when you are meeting someone for the first time.
Not only beliefs and appearances can determine how we see people but also the way people act. For example, even with something small, if you are holding a door for someone and don’t say thank you, it can be annoying because you act kindly towards them and don’t get a response back. They could be in a bad mood and had something running through their minds where they forgot to thank you. Small things like that can easily have you assume you don’t like a person, but in reality, it really shouldn’t. We live in such a judgemental culture that we can be ticked off smoothly. Respecting someone based on what they do could be difficult, but it can be done. At the end of the day, what are you getting out of it? I know it is easy to be annoyed at a person based on their actions, but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t dislike someone, especially if you are just getting to know them.
We all know that judging can naturally happen and occurs very easily in our daily life. We can be respectful and think about what we like about a person instead of dislikes. We could have our own opinions, but it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t say that other people’s opinions don’t matter. What I tend to do now is to learn to listen and understand different beliefs and cultures. We never know what a person is going through, and maybe they think a certain way based on their own experiences. It also is good to pray for one another, and I know that God is in control, and all we can do is find the goodness in the world we live in today. Judging each other will not make things any better, and we all know if we continue to judge one another, it makes it even more difficult to trust people. Knowing that God is the most important in our lives and to continue to be good for Him here on earth.
The same goes for religion. We can easily judge people who don’t share the same beliefs, making it difficult to know them as a person. For example, I had jobs in the past where I needed to work with people who disagree with my religion, which can be discouraging at times. Of course, making conversations with a person who doesn’t share the same beliefs can be challenging, especially if they are judging you back. Sometimes you just have to accept that you may have different ways of seeing the world than others, and that’s okay. If I feel obligated to judge someone on their beliefs, I try to just think about how awkward it will be to work with this person if I keep that grudge against them. If you can’t respect a person’s perspectives, then working with them will make the job much more complicated than it needs to be.
We can also dislike how people dress or look in general. When we see someone new walking into the room, we first see their outfit and appearance. Sometimes, we may disagree with the color choice of their clothes, the shape of their glasses, or even the shoes they wear. It can be very seamless to think how much they dislike a person based on what they wear on a particular day. You never know, what if they usually don’t dress the way they do and they just had a bad day. We aren’t always sure, and we certainly shouldn’t say anything when you are meeting someone for the first time.
Not only beliefs and appearances can determine how we see people but also the way people act. For example, even with something small, if you are holding a door for someone and don’t say thank you, it can be annoying because you act kindly towards them and don’t get a response back. They could be in a bad mood and had something running through their minds where they forgot to thank you. Small things like that can easily have you assume you don’t like a person, but in reality, it really shouldn’t. We live in such a judgemental culture that we can be ticked off smoothly. Respecting someone based on what they do could be difficult, but it can be done. At the end of the day, what are you getting out of it? I know it is easy to be annoyed at a person based on their actions, but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t dislike someone, especially if you are just getting to know them.
We all know that judging can naturally happen and occurs very easily in our daily life. We can be respectful and think about what we like about a person instead of dislikes. We could have our own opinions, but it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t say that other people’s opinions don’t matter. What I tend to do now is to learn to listen and understand different beliefs and cultures. We never know what a person is going through, and maybe they think a certain way based on their own experiences. It also is good to pray for one another, and I know that God is in control, and all we can do is find the goodness in the world we live in today. Judging each other will not make things any better, and we all know if we continue to judge one another, it makes it even more difficult to trust people. Knowing that God is the most important in our lives and to continue to be good for Him here on earth.